I get a lot of grief from some people in my life about my posts on Facebook and Twitter. I’m goofy or intense or sincere or messing around with my kids. I shoot a quick video and boom! There it is.. a peek into the life of one David Farbman. But lately I’ve been considering putting down the phone.
Don’t get me wrong. I love texting and connecting. My favorite thing about social media is the opportunity to share the one thing we all share: LIFE. Our experiences bring us together. My greatest gripe about social media (and my best pal, the iPhone 6) is how it takes us out of the present and puts us in the role of the observer.
The only place we can experience thoughts and emotions is in the present moment. It is the only place we exist. If your goal is to live an authentic life, learning to control your thoughts in the present moment is essential. We make the biggest wins when we drop the camo and engage with reality. And if you don’t think your phone is camouflage then I have a book you need to read.
Several people in my company are taking the next week off to spend spring break with their families. I am encouraging them and all of you to leave the phone in your pocket. It will let you know if it needs you. You will create more memories sitting on a beach with your loved ones if your hands are building sandcastles or applying sunscreen or holding a cold beer. Your brain and heart can hold your emotions and thoughts so much better than your iPhone 6 can.
Life happens in real time. Before I know it, my boys will be men and on their own. I want them to look back and remember the adventures we went on together, how I held their hands and ran through the sand. I want to spot deer with them and see the excitement on their faces when they find a morel mushroom or catch a fish or simply admire a sunrise. Enjoy your holiday, if it’s home or away, and leave your phone alone. It isn’t making memories with you.
